7 Signs You Are A Chronic Perfectionist

Being a perfectionist is a challenging thing because you always feel the necessity of keeping everything under control and getting every little thing perfect. If something goes wrong, a perfectionist can feel despondent and even fall into a depression as they realize that they’ve failed. These usually talented people face problematic relationships and certain mood disorders.

If you are a high achiever and a chronic perfectionist, then pay attention to the following features indicating the essence of your character.

1. You need to always be ok

If you have a constant need to keep everything under control, then you are a chronic perfectionist. It’s not a secret that such type of people have less friends, because no one likes to be dictated what to do and to be on your string all the time for you to feel satisfied. The best way for you is to take easy for a while. If you are a boss, try to be milder, because such mega pressing may affect the productivity of your employees.

2. Not good enough

Perfectionists usually cannot reach the biggest goal and do not feel lasting satisfaction, because everything is not good enough for them. They always want and need to do things better than they’ve already got and done. A chronic perfectionist will find at least something, even a few details to be improved. “Perfectionism is a self-abuse of the highest order”. This idea is by Anne Wilson Schaef is the best reflection of the situation, so we should try not to abuse ourselves and stop being a true perfectionist.

3. An eager to please from early childhood

According to psychologist’s statistics, perfectionism begins early in the childhood. Usually, parents want their kids to be better than themselves and teach them to get higher results in different spheres of development. As a result, children become chronic perfectionists, instead of living fulfilled and happy life they face the problems of their exigent temper. Perfectionism is very painful, especially for children, because this dual notion makes them fear the consequences of not doing well and need to do better that usually leads to personal inner conflicts.

4. Frequent procrastination

It’s unbelievably, but perfectionism has connections with the tendency to procrastinate everything. According to several investigations, there are maladaptive and adaptive forms of perfectionism. Maladaptive perfectionists usually need to please others and they procrastinate tasks more frequent, but adaptive perfectionists try to avoid postponements and they please themselves first. Be sure, both forms of perfectionism make you miserable and prevent you from being successful and satisfied.

5. You are mega critical

Do you often criticize others? Perfectionists usually get nervous and reject things in others they hate in themselves. They seem to have a critical eye and they always try to teach others, making people feel discriminated by a perfectionist. If you are a perfectionist, try not to be so harsh and mega critical of other people and it will be better for both sides.

6. You do everything yourself

Perfectionists cannot trust their business to other people. You should understand that you are not a superhuman and you cannot do all tasks yourself. Such habit can be quite exhausting for you and may have a great impact on your health and happiness. It is necessary to rid yourself of this destructive habit.

7. You reach your goals by all means

Do you often reach goals stopping at nothing? Perfectionist is a person who will do everything to reach their goal, even if it will hurt them. We should realize that such unhealthy attitude won’t drive us to excellence, because the absence of rules and limits can lead to quite unusual and unknown consequences. If you are a perfectionist, you should know when to stop, otherwise your temper can play a bad game with you and your interrelation with the society.

It’s difficult to be a perfectionist. You are always chased by the desire to be in charge of everything that is theoretically impossible.
Remember that this habit is very exhausting and can both make your life more saturated and unfortunate at the same time.

Are you a perfectionist?.........Sound off in the comment section.

Innovative, weird or Disgusting??: Soap made from Breast MIlk becoming popular in China

A new soap made from breast milk that claims to cure nappy rash is proving popular in China.

The soap was invented by a new mum who found her baby son couldn't take breast milk.

Instead of wasting it, she decided to make soap from it so he would still get some of the skincare benefits.

The soap vendor writes that her creation is good for deep-cleansing adult skin but also helps prevent nappy rash on babies.

She has moulded the soaps into shapes likes teddies, rabbits, tortoises and fish.

NHS studies show that breast milk (taken in the usual manner) improves a baby's chances of not developing skin conditions like eczema.

Experts also say breast-fed babies have less chance of diarrhoea and vomiting, fewer chest and ear infections and less likelihood of becoming obese.

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10 Simple Secrets To A Fresher Face!

Do you feel like your face needs a pick-me-up? The good news is, there are countless ways to perk up your skin and give your face that natural glow it’s been missing for long.

From makeup tips and tricks to skincare do’s and don’ts, these are the easiest and most effective ways to a fresher face.

Follow these steps to regain that radiant glow:

1. Tame Your Brows
Keeping your eyebrows sleek and clean can give you an instant eye lift. Make sure there are no loose hairs flying below your brow line as these tend to create noticeable shadows. Fill in any white spots on your brows with a matching shadow to give them a more defined look. Rub a dollop of moisturizer (or hair gel) over your brows to keep them in place throughout the day.

2. Make the Most of Mascara
Keeping your makeup light and fresh is the easiest way to a glorious glow. However, one piece of makeup you don’t want to throw away is mascara. A light coat of mascara on the top lashes will wake up your eyes and make them look bright and beautiful. Curl your lashes before you put your mascara on for an even brighter glow. One coat of mascara is enough. Too much will make your lashes look caked on and overdone.

3. Brighten Your Eyes with Shimmery Shadow
Choosing a light, shimmery shadow for your eyes will perk them up and make you look more awake. To really make them pop, add a dab of white shimmer to the inner corners of both eyes towards the nose, stopping just before the bridge of your nose. This 30-second addition to your makeup routine will work wonders on your overall glow.

4. Blush Your Way Back to Beautiful
Sweeping on a layer of light pink or peach blush will give your cheeks a boost of color and make you look fresher instantly. The key is not putting on too much. One light layer of a pale pink or peach or auburn will do the trick.  Brush the blush from the apples of your cheeks all the way back along your cheekbone to the side of your face for a more natural look.

5. Illuminate Your Cheekbones
Adding a dash of shimmer to your cheekbones will light up your entire face. Get this amazing glow by adding a light layer of moisturizer over your blush. Immediately after you apply the moisturizer to the highest part of your cheekbone, sweep on a very light layer of shimmery white (or light pink) shadow or illuminator.

6. Go Light on the Foundation
A natural look is important when it comes to achieving a fresh face. The more makeup you cake on, the drier and pastier your skin will look. The best way to get a natural glow while still providing your face with the makeup coverage it needs is by mixing your foundation with a dab of moisturizer. A light coat of liquid foundation is all you need (in addition to a light sweep of blush). Don’t add powder overtop of your foundation as powder is known to sink into the fine lines on your face and make them much more noticeable.

7. Lighten Your Lips
Lighten up your lips and give them a healthy new look by adding a layer of light pink (or nude) lip gloss. Don’t use lipstick as it tends to make lips look dried out and pasty. For a fresh faced look, you want a lip gloss with tons of moisturizer and a very subtle hint of color.

8. Rock a Sleek Ponytail
A great way to look fresh faced and beautiful is by pulling your hair back tight. Rocking a sleek ponytail will make pull back your skin and make your facial features pop. Tying your hair back into a sexy ponytail while following the other steps on this list will ensure you look your very best from the moment you wake up until the moment you go to bed.

9. Make Your Whites Whiter
If the white part of your eyes isn’t white it can make you look tired and dull. There are several ways to make your whites whiter. Changing your eating habits to incorporate more fresh fruits and vegetables and reducing the amount of alcohol you drink can go a long way in brightening your eyes. For temporary relief you can use Visine (or any other store brand) eyedrops but prolonged use of drops for cosmetic purposes should be avoided.

10. Exfoliate!!!!!!!
Exfoliating your skin is probably the most effective way to go from drab to fab in a matter of minutes. Remove excessive skin from your face by using a gentle exfoliator every day. When purchasing an exfoliator, look for products that are specifically designed for your face. Using your body exfoliator on your face will be too rough and will risk damaging your skin. A gentle, facial exfoliator will do the trick.

...........and Always, Wear a smile!!!!

Is Nicki Minaj Evolving?

If you haven’t noticed Nicki Minaj is toning down the ostentatious fashion and hair styles that made her famous. Proof resides in her red carpet photos from this weekend’s MTV Movie Awards, left, and last night's The Other Woman, at right. You like?

Her hair stylist Oscar James, who spoke to Cosmopolitan about her sartorial shift, said the rapper just wants to do less. After prodding Tyra Banks for his number, James says Minaj contacted him for a “bold” new look.

On the reason for her makeover:

She just told me that she wanted to tone down a little. Maybe she's trying to reach a broader audience, I don’t know. But I’m taken aback even myself because she's so pretty. … You can really see her features. I'm just so honored to be part of this journey and I’m so happy that she chose me. She’s so beautiful. I didn’t know all that was underneath is what I’m trying to say.
On channeling Marilyn Monroe for inspiration:

I know she's a huge fan of Marilyn Monroe; I don’t know if it’s a hair inspiration. When we’re doing things, I pull pictures from everywhere. What I really wanted for her for the MTV Movie Awards was a Dita Von Teese look, but that was a little too dressy. She wanted something a little more natural. And I think it’s maybe because it was the movie awards, she wanted to be more toned-down, more natural. We did a video recently for a song she has out called “Senile.” My inspiration for that was Sophia Loren, a little Amy Winehouse, but even then she wanted to tone down. She was like, “I just want to be softer.” And she's really adamant about softer and more natural.
James continued, saying that Minaj is all about wearing her natural hair these days, eschewing wigs for, I’m assuming, a few tracks for body and length around her head. Another reason for this make-under? The era of the over-the-top David Bowie-esque character performances are passé — just look at Gaga's current struggle — and as she books more television and film roles, Minaj realized it would serve her silver-screen goals to look like a human instead of a Harajuku doll. I’m into it. Now if we could just get her to stop Instagramming those headless boob shots in the middle of the night.

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Mystery Artist Depicts Kanye West Crucified

An interesting and sure to be controversial piece of street art appeared in the the Hollywood area of Los Angeles this morning, just as millions of Christians around the country prepare to celebrate Easter Sunday or the resurrection of Jesus Christ.

In the mural, which was spotted for the first time this morning, Kanye has his arms spread and his feet, fitted with red Converse, crossed over one another. In this depiction he looks undeniably like Jesus on the cross. Oh, and he’s wearing a cloth around his waist. Next to the image are the words “The New Messiah?”

Kanye has frequently referenced himself as divine with songs like “I Am A God.” And it looks like someone drank that Kool Aid.

I don’t have to tell you that this is more blasphemous than a little bit and I would be surprised if it remains up for too long.
Kanye? The Messiah? Please. The man could even save himself.
I wonder how Kanye would feel about this depiction. While he’s professed to being a Christian with Jesus being one of his idols, he’s not afraid to depict himself as the savior. There was also the now infamous Rolling Stone cover where West donned a crown of thorns. But perhaps West believes dressing like Christ is not blasphemous but expresses his admiration.

Either way what do you think about this mural?

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The Other Woman

Time and again, I have had this discussion...or more like a debate on ladies dating married men. Some people I come across are quick to go to battle, saying hey! Blame the married man, he went after the single lady, he took the vows not her. But then, I feel a lot is to be said about the lady who goes in, knowing the man is unavailable. A LOT more is even to be said about she who goes in, expecting that the man is going to leave his WIFE for her!.

Ezinne Ukoha wrote about this on Madame Noire, and has this to say:

So, I just finished comforting my friend who ended a disastrous affair with a married co-worker. It was particularly torturous for me, because it forced me to relive my own nightmare. I too, had fallen victim to the spell of a handsome, unavailable guy who happened to be one of my managers at work. He was tall, blond and intelligent. I never imagined that he would even give me a second glance. Not because I didn’t think I deserved the attention, but rather he seemed like he would be more drawn to the Upper East Side icy Princesses that paraded around the sidewalks in “Stepford Wives” mode every weekend.

It turns out that I was just his type and he made it abundantly clear almost a month after I started my employment. I couldn’t resist his “innocent” invitations to the corporate dives after work. He was paying way too much attention to me and slowly but surely we became the topic of conversation amongst our coworkers. But by that time I was too involved to care. I was busy being romanced and dined at the top spots in the city, and after we spent the night at the restricted Soho House, I just knew he would leave his wife for me.

Of course that didn’t happen. We rocked each other’s worlds for three more years (Yikes!) and then once he and his socialite wife started having kids, he pulled away and before I could say “What’s Up?” – it was over. I was left in the cold, with only memories and a short roster of other failed attempts with married men to keep me company. Why had I allowed myself to be enticed by men that were already taken? Did I delight in the fact that they found me a fitting escape from their constrained reality? Was it hard for me to resist the idea that I represented their version of perfection, an interpretation of what their life could be like if only they were free? Or maybe I was too lazy to give myself to a man who was available to love me without boundaries, because that would mean, putting in work to keep the love alive.

Either way, I had developed a pattern, and it was digging a hole in my soul. I never set out to be the “the other woman.” I was 21 when the pattern first took shape, and it was hard to tear myself away because I was being told all the right things and it felt good to feel “wanted” in such a desperate way. But now that enough time has passed, I am willing to own the fact that I was somewhat selfish in my pursuits, and I have since worked on rectifying my mistakes.

But some of my friends are still stuck in aimless relationships that leave them scarred and bitter. I am quite surprised at the number of women that settle for romantic dalliances with married men.

Why do so many of us accept this dating ritual as the norm – and what does it say about us?

A lot of it can be traced to our impressionable childhood. Absent father, sexual abuse or a mother who didn’t hide her promiscuous tendencies – either way, if you are in embroiled in a similar situation, maybe it’s time to examine your steps and take accountability.

What do y'all think?..Sound off in the comment section.....